“Why Does Breastfeeding Feel So Hard?”
You’ve seen the photos—moms nursing with ease, peaceful, glowing.
But behind those images? There’s often exhaustion, frustration, and a thousand little worries:
✔ Is my baby getting enough?
✔ Why does this hurt?
✔ Why do I feel so emotional?
Breastfeeding isn’t just a skill—it’s a biological process controlled by hormones. And when those hormones aren’t working smoothly, milk supply, let-down, and even emotions can feel out of sync.
Two key hormones—prolactin and oxytocin—drive everything from how much milk you produce to how easily it flows to your baby. Understanding them can make your breastfeeding journey easier and help you navigate challenges with confidence.
Prolactin: The Milk-Making Hormone
Ever wonder how your body just knows to start making milk after birth? That’s prolactin at work.
How Prolactin Supports Milk Production
✔ Triggers milk-making after birth → During pregnancy, prolactin levels are high but blocked by progesterone. Once the placenta is delivered, progesterone drops, allowing prolactin to stimulate full milk production (La Leche League).
✔ Increases with every feeding session → Every time your baby latches and suckles, prolactin levels rise, signaling your body to make more milk for the next feed (NCBI).
✔ More demand = more supply → The more often you breastfeed or pump, the more prolactin continues producing milk. That’s why skipping feedings too often can lead to a drop in supply.
💡 The takeaway? Nursing frequently = higher prolactin levels = more milk.
Oxytocin: The Let-Down & Love Hormone
Ever felt your breasts tingle or leak when you hear your baby cry? That’s oxytocin in action!
What Oxytocin Does During Breastfeeding
✔ Triggers milk ejection (let-down reflex) → Oxytocin contracts the muscles around the milk ducts, pushing milk toward the nipple for your baby to drink (NCBI).
✔ Releases even before baby latches → Just thinking about your baby, hearing their cry, or smelling them can trigger oxytocin release and milk let-down (NHS Scotland).
✔ Creates a strong emotional bond → Oxytocin is also called the “love hormone” because it increases feelings of closeness and relaxation, helping both mom and baby feel calm during nursing.
💡 But not all moms feel an oxytocin high. Some experience unexpected emotions—like sadness, anxiety, or even irritation—during let-down. This is called Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER), and it happens because of sudden dopamine fluctuations during oxytocin release (International Breastfeeding Journal).
💙 If this happens to you, you’re not alone. Understanding D-MER can help reduce guilt or confusion, and support is available.
Why Stress Can Block These Hormones
Breastfeeding is as much psychological as it is physical.
When moms feel overwhelmed, anxious, or exhausted, their bodies produce more cortisol (stress hormone).
✔ High cortisol can slow down oxytocin, delaying or weakening milk let-down.
✔ If stress becomes chronic, it may also lower prolactin, reducing milk supply over time.
✔ Some moms struggle with “let-down anxiety”—a cycle where stress about low supply makes let-down even harder.
💡 The good news? Small changes—like a few deep breaths before nursing, a supportive environment, and even a warm cup of tea—can help your body relax and restore oxytocin flow.
What If Your Milk Supply Feels Low?
Breastfeeding isn’t just about milk—it’s an emotional experience.
✔ Some moms feel pure bliss, relaxation, and connection.
✔ Others feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or guilty when things don’t go smoothly.
✔ Some moms experience resentment or exhaustion from constant feedings.
💡 If breastfeeding feels emotionally heavy, reaching out for support—whether from a lactation consultant, a support group, or a professional—is just as important as managing milk supply.
The Emotional Side of Breastfeeding
Motherhood is a transformation—physically, emotionally, and hormonally. Some days are magical, and others are deeply challenging. Both are normal.
If you’re struggling with mood swings, exhaustion, or feeling unlike yourself, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
✔ Personalized postpartum hormone evaluations → Find out if hormonal imbalances are playing a role in your emotions.
✔ Guidance from specialists → No pressure, no judgment—just real support.
✔ Custom treatment options → From lifestyle changes to medical solutions, we’ll help you find what works for you.
💙 If you need support, we’re here. Let’s talk. Click here to connect.
How Amazing Meds Can Support You
Breastfeeding isn’t just about willpower—it’s about biology. If you’ve tried all the natural methods but still struggle, hormone imbalances might be playing a role.
At Amazing Meds, we offer:
✔ Hormone level testing → Check if prolactin, oxytocin, or thyroid issues are affecting milk supply.
✔ Personalized breastfeeding support → Learn how to naturally boost these hormones for better nursing success.
✔ Compassionate guidance—zero pressure, just real support.
💙 Every breastfeeding journey is different, and sometimes, a little extra support makes all the difference.
Whether you need guidance, reassurance, or medical insight, we’re here—no pressure, just support. Let’s chat. Click here to connect.

Celeene Rae
Writer & Blogger @ Amazing Meds
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